I need urgent prayer

[jsfindley]

I was raised in church, but have been in and out several times in my life. I am now consecrated to God for good and for the rest of my life. During 2008, while I was in that backslidden state I found and married the love of my life. She has never had the Holy Ghost and Satan has had a hold on her life for the majority of her life. Soon after we got married God began to pull me back and make me realize that I have an amazing responsibility as a husband and father. I began to speak to her about the truth and lead her to God. I began attending the church in Bethel Springs, TN, during mid October of 2009 she began attending with me. We attended church about three Sundays as a family. After that third Sunday, all Hell broke loose. Everything would be seemingly fine and out of nowhere, something would trigger an argument. I admit that I was not praying and fasting like I should have been. I have asked God to forgive me for that. Our last attendance as a family was on November 8, 2009. She received a great touch by God that Sunday. After that Sunday it seemed that Satan began to fight our marriage in a great way. On November 13, 2009 she left me and now we are separated. She no longer attends church with me. I believe the Bible says that I am her spiritual head. I have bound the spirits that have oppressed and tried to control her. I have been praying and fasting for God to heal our marriage and fill her with the Holy Ghost. I know that God will do it as according to Matthew 21:22 as well as other scriptures. I have studied the scriptures and I know it is the will of God for marriages to succeed. I know my wife and I are supposed to be together. God will not release me. She has been married twice before so this seems to be a pattern. She also has trust issues. When things get tough she runs. As I said I have prayed as to whether I should put her away and God will not release me from her. He reminded me that I should love her as He loves the church and has given his life for it. I will not give up on her or our marriage. I will not allow Satan to have my wife and children. This is not only a battle for my marriage, but also for the salvation of my family. I have the faith to see this through and the patience to wait on God's time. I am asking for all of my Holy Ghost filled brothers and sisters who will please bind with me in prayer. I know that the battle is God's and he will work this miracle for us. I know God will do it. I am placing it in his hands. I know the word of God says that where two or three are gathered in His name, He will be in the midst. I know the Bible says that He is a rewarder of those who diligently seek him. Also it says if I delight myself in Him, he will give me the desire of my heart. And the Bible says, all things, whatsoever I ask in prayer, believing, I will receive it. I know God will change her and bring her back to Him. I know that God is stronger than any demon spirit, human spirit, person, event; everything. I know that as a reference, since God changed the path of Moses, Jonah, Peter, and Paul, then He can and will also change the path of my wife. He will draw her to His self and ultimately, me. There is no reason or way it cannot happen. Will you allow me to join the group and have the other men pray with me for my marriage. This single thing is all I ask of God for my life. My only desire is this miracle and healing for my marriage and family.

[Psalm97]

I'll be praying. Check your PM (personal messages.) It's up at the top of the page, beside User Control Panel.

[JimLowranceSr]

Praying here my brother.

[jsfindley]

Today my wife told me she doesn't want me anymore at all and will never try to work this out again. She said that she doesn't believe it was God's will for us to get married. She doesn't have the Holy Ghost. I don't know what to do. I am finding it pretty hard to hold on to faith. I feel myself slipping. I believe God's will is that our marriage be healed. I know God can do it. Where is He in my situation? Why has this not happened? What is going on? My family is my life and I feel that my life is in limbo. I hurt everyday about this. I believe in God's power and His desire to heal my marriage, but it still hurts. What do I do? How do I hold on? Where do I find the strength to hold on? I just don't know what to do.

[EJFH]

You mentioned you began attending this particular church around October 2009. Have you officially joined it? Or does the church regard you as a frequent visitor? The reason I ask has to do with whether or not the pastor considers you a member of the flock, someone for whom he is spiritually responsible. Because this kind of dynamic situation seems tailor-made for talking with your pastor about. He knows both you and your wife, and doubtless knows aspects of this situation that none of us here do. We've never seen your face, don't know how old you are (I for one would speak differently to a 45-year-old than to a 26-year-old), and so on. As valuable as this forum is, and as wise as some of its members strike me, I don't think we should really be your first recourse for counsel in this matter. Are you talking to your pastor?

[jsfindley]

I have been talking to my pastor. I am a member of the church. I am just trying to find as many prayer partners as I can find who will stand with me and pray with me for my marriage and for a complete healing in my family. I have come on her to look for camaraderie and encouragement. I know that these people on here may not know me very well and that is actually a better situation, because if they pray for my situation, God can speak to them and perhaps give them insight and instruction in the Holy Ghost for me. Sometimes, when someone outside the situation prays about a situation may see clearer than the person in the middle of the storm. I know that God speaks to men of God who have a prayer life. I know that God can help me through this group. I believe this men's group was made for men like me in my situation. When men of God bind together for one another and believe together for God's perfect will to be accomplished, I know God will move and great miracles will happen. I completely believe in God's authority and power. I know He cares for us and wants us to have an abundant life. Sometimes my faith wavers when I see the waves and the storm rush in. Please bind with me in prayer. If God gives you a word for me, in the spirit please don't hesitate to let me know. I will receive prayerful insight from my brethren.

[agoss]

My brother, a thought came immediately but I will not say it is or is not from God. Wanted to joke a little here but decided not to at this time.

She has not yet received the Holy Ghost. You have rededicated your life. She has a troubled history and you seemingly have a less troubled history. That was my perception anyway.

She said it was not God's will so is she pursuing God even from a denominal viewpoint. (lack of vocabulary here)

Could she be running from what you have? Could she be scared of the unknown? She was "touched" right. Could the flesh be fighting and this may seem to be her only way out because id is evident that you are making the STAND to live for God.

I must ask how old you are???

When I got back in church I was living with my girlfriend. For about 8 years. She is now my wife of 8 years and we are both heavily involved. Oh and she was Catholic. If only you guys could see where God brought us from.

There is hope. Bro EJFH is right about the Pastor thing.

Side question? Is there anything in your past that she brings up in the intense fellowship. Maybe a hurt?

[jsfindley]

I am 33 and she is 27. She has been superficially attending a Church of Christ church (only out of obligation to her mother). She only goes because that is where her mother now goes. She does not have a prayer life. I know it is God's desire to reach her and finish the work he started in us. Both she and I have hurt one another in the past. I am the forgiver between us. She remembers my faults, but as I say, I forgive her. I will never give up on our marriage. I know is is God's perfect will that our marriage be made whole. I know that God knows where she is and just how to reach her. I know, just as God blocked Jonah's path and put him in a place where he had to listen and follow God's perfect will. I know God can do that for my wife as well. I pray that every door will close and every path be blocked that she will try to follow which would lead her from God's will. I know I have to let her go and let God move. If I'm in the way I block God's hand. I have released my hand off of her. No marriage is ever too late for God to work. I know that. Please help me pray that God continued to strengthen my faith. When there is little to no evidence of him working it is sometimes hard to hold on. Please pray for my mind that God will help me not to get discouraged as I go through this trial. Please pray with me that Gog block any path that she would travel down and away from God's will.

[Psalm97]

"When there is little to no evidence of him working it is sometimes hard to hold on."

Amen! Always has been worth it though.

[lancemahan]

Brother Let me say this first of all. I agree that God can deal with this. YOu have to remember to let Him work though. It can happen right now but as you will find out it is in His time.

I am 45 and was born again in aug of 2008. My wife and I have been together since about 1986. My wife doesn't have the same belief as I do. She doesn't come to church with me or has the Holy Ghost. Yet I know that my God , Jesus Christ can do all things. First I have ti ask and believe then I have to remove myself from the situation. Don't push, pull, argue, fight or anything else to mess up what God is doing.

You have the Holy Ghost. God lives in you. Your wife doesn't so what conviction she has is battling against the Holy Ghost. Same with my wife. You just have to love her and not push or tall her she is going to Hell. Wisdow comes from God.

A old Pastor told me once he found out I was born again. He said you have to realize that she ( my wife) may never come to God, she may come to church but never come to God, or she may leave you, or she may be born again. He wasn't trying to discourage me but telling me the truth.
One thing you have on your side is Jesus. You believe she will be born again and you believe Jesus will bring you two closer. You have to pray for that.

satan is battling you because you have turned away from him. satan will try to destroy everything around you. Dig you feet in and tell Jesus you are not leaving, pray for your wife, have you Pastor and church pray for you and coming in and having others do the same is a good thing.